Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Will you let me see you?

A few years ago, it seems like people already know where I would be.
Exactly where I am today.
This Law School.

So some of them asked whether or not they can see or contact me some time in the future. And the answer is alwalys no. Among them are: a journalist, a marine guy, a priest, and a lawyer. I want them only at the present time. I want them momentarily in my life. I want them the fill the hollow space at a definite time. I want them to be only projection in my mind. I want them only to be project of my curiousity towards adventure. I want them to be a memory, an instant one. I want to be leaving all that and start a new chapter of my life. I want them to get lost. I want them to be a reminder of what foolish thing I have done. I want them to be a reminder that I can actually do what i want to do, get what i want to get, when i want it.

And I don't want them now. Stop contacting me. Stop annoying me with your sweet words and attention. I moved on. I have new things happening around me. You're just a memory. You're the past. This is my future.

Yet, some people in this present time are always trying to define me with things I did in my past. So I took the action-of erasing all of the past in my mind. So when momentarily meant people asked me the question; will you let me see you? NO.

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

The Premis of Love Doesn't Needs to Own

"If you love someone, you have to set him free"

I have a constant debate with a fellow of love entitlement to ownership. I keep on repeating the same question in my head; "How could you own someone or something that you never really have?". I finally reach the conclusion that one could never own another person. I base this on the fact that there is a thing called free determination a.k.a free will owned by each human being. One of the means to exercise free will is by the freedom of expression. To love something means to project the freedom of expression to another object, be it a human being or other object.

Whether or not the object of expression or affection reciprocally projects the expression is another issue that will be discussed further in this text. However, from the elaboration above one begins to question, does one's projection of freedom of expression entitles that person towards ownership? Does the exercise of a right entitles that person of another right?

In the legal world, exercise of right ussualy entails obligation. In this context, that would mean that if you love someone, you have the obligation not to hurt that person for example. To love someone does not entail you with susequent right of being loved back. Whether or not you enjoy the right of being loved back is another question which answer depends upon another person's decision in exercising his/her free will.

That is why loving someone does not entail ownership towards that person. Because the exercise of ownership is dependent on the law of reciprocality being exercised by the other person. Furthermore, if love do entail ownership- the only object that you could own is your own feeling. Loving someone in the end enrichened you with ownership of the feeling of love- independent on whether or not the object of affection reflects the same expression towards the subject.

In the ideal world, that exist. Human being however are immmortal of mistakes and vulnerable to pain of not being loved back. Human being needs assurance to the exercise of reciprocality. Which is why the entity of marriage is created. With the aim of assuring reciprocality and ensuring liability, the ownership entity in human being's relationship of love- marriage is created.

Human being easily self dilluted themselves with the notion of love and being in love- without ever understanding what love means. So when human being decided themselves to be in love, they express it in various ways and means, including making love. The exercise of this means of expressing love leads to the creation of the fruit of love- child. Then one is obligated to take care the result of their being in love action. Afraid of the new circumstances, many human being (dominantly have the male sex) run away from reality and decide that one actually does not experience love. However, no remedy is available for this irresponsible act which resulted from hastily and sloppy decision. To regulate and prevent such exercise of right which may conflict pain in the part of others, marriage is created. Further obligations and consequence following the termination of marriage is also being created and regulated.

But the arguments still continues, does being in a marriage means that you own someone? The answer is NO. You could never control other person's feeling including when one would stop or begin loving other person.

Therefore, I end this text by concluding that love does not mean to won other person, even if such love is beng exercised through a highly assured and regulated entity such as marriage.